My birthday is always a time of reflection, honoring the emotions that arise and exploring how I can embrace a more balanced energy. As I begin my 42nd year around the Sun, I know that scars of my traumatic childhood will always be there. Part of me will always be fearful, anxious and a recovering perfectionist. But I am learning how to read the energy associated with their triggers and embrace the cycles of life. For me, one of the primary aspects of having a more balanced nervous system and energy is sobriety.
I am blessed to have lived an adventurous life, listening to my Spirit, before becoming a mama at the age of 36. Thank goodness for that woman, She choose to embrace her wildness and lean into the pain to discover that all of her struggles would fuel her strengths one day.
deepens the connection to my Spirit and creates moments of magic within my life...
I've always loved watching the sunrises and sunsets...they give a deeper meaning to my days. They are moments where I honor stillness, take the time to set my intentions and pause to remember...
Half way through my 40th year around the Sun, I am finally beginning to feel the inner connection I had as a child. There is a playfulness to how I approach my time alone...
At the age of 40, I realize that everything in my life has prepared me to be completely present in this moment....to embrace the challenges of being a mama to a little man with autism but not loose myself in the struggles.
At certain points within our lives we are faced with a challenge...the opportunity to continue down our path OR to face ourselves, our true Selves....to make the conscious choice to love ourselves enough to do the work.
For me, this opportunity came eleven years ago.....
For the majority of my life, I've struggled with boundaries....
It wasn't until I hit rock bottom, during my 30th year, that I realized Boundaries are born from Self Love & Self Respect. It was at this point, that I made the conscious decision to love myself enough to do the work. To face all the heartache and dysfunction I had been running from. I choose to say "enough is enough" is my own crazy shit!
It took several more years of therapy, my first yoga teacher training, and some really bad mistakes to begin to embody Sustainable Boundaries. Ones that are true to myself, yet not rigid, lacking empathy nor the space for connection. Boundaries that enhance my desires of living a connected healthy & happy life. Ones that act as a container when life becomes turbulent and unseemingly out-of-control. My Sustainable Boundaries help to guide me, where I can truly connect with my Creativity, Love, and Radiance.
To continue to embody Sustainable Boundaries, I layer practices where I recognize AND choose to listen to listen to them. In yoga, there are so many opportunities to move in a way that truly honors my body's limitations....there are as equally, if not more, opportunities to not move in a sustainable way. When I mindfully practice "Lord of the Dance" (Dancer/Natarajasana) I respect my lower back by cultivating strong physical boundaries around how deep I choose to take the pose. For me, Dancer is a pose that I can go to the limber extreme without any real pain at the time....it's later that I deal with the consequences. Moving in this mindful way on my mat, intentionally reinforces my Sustainable Boundaries....making the healthy pattern easier to access off of my mat.
If this post resonates with you, I would love to hear how you create Sustainable Boundaries within your life...
photo credit Vanessa Cerday Photography
or Lavender's origin is in the high mountains of Persia and southern France. It is a very hardy plant which can grow on rocky barren soil where few plants can survive and tolerates drastic temperature swings. In Haute Provence, there is a tradition of locals trekking up the mountains during late Summer to harvest the plant during the heat of the day, which is when the essential oil is at it's highest content. The lavender used in most essential oils today is cross of the wild French plant & a Spanish variety and is distilled through steam. This plant is described as having a light floral smell.
Lavender is considered one of the most versatile essential oils because of it's vast application and amazing qualities. We also have lavender in the house for it's ability to calm and stimulate & regenerate the nervous system. Part of anti-anxiety regiment is to diffuse lavender in the afternoon and rub the bottoms of my feet with a few drops at night. My son has sensory issues and we use diluted lavender on his back several times a day to help him calm....I literally don't leave the house without it! In addition to Lavender's calming & soothing qualities it is also a natural antibiotic, antiseptic, sedative and detoxifier. For the Mind & Spirit Lavender helps to cleanse, balance, streghten, stimulate, calm and refresh!
here are some of the ways my family has incorporated Lavender into our lives...
this information is from my personal experiences and my references The Complete Book of Essential Oils & Aromatherapy by Valerie Ann Worwood and the Complete Aromatherapy Handbook Essential Oils for Radiant Health by Suzanne Fischer-Rizzi.
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Below are my article contributions and podcasts...
MoveOnPast podcast, episode 8
~honoring space to hear my inner knowing
~enhancing our awareness
~the benefits of a flow & restore practice
~we need to stay curious as yoga teachers
~small moments of stillness to carry me through the day
~elephant journal contributions...
~how my flow & restore practice has helped me relinquish old stories
~cultivating intentional rest through restorative yoga